Saturday, December 12, 2009
Sunday, December 6, 2009
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Campaign Vs Stupidity
since the backdrop so clutter and not attractive why not we change it.
no, i wan to stick with the design that Dr.S approved.
But, most of the event outside will standardize the design of a campaign. change to another 1 will look better and it is more cost saving.
Dr.selva said cut and paste thing is those kindergarten do 1.. so we stick to the original backdrop. Some more the another design too formal d..
Today this conversation really pissed me off....
at the 1st told me that SHE want to stick to the design then my ex-lecture had approved 1...
but i thought this campaign suppose be be OUR campaign not only YOURS...
today i just realise that this campaign is owned by someone else not by whole team member..
feels like we are the part time woker which take RM80 or RM100 per day.. haha..
another funny part is that she told me the cut and paste thing is for kindergaden level not for uni level.. after that i get another feedback said that the another backdrop is too seirous too formal... wth... too formal cannot.. cut and paste u said is kindergarden's works??
and i wan to ask that do we really have those money to do the printing??
we are not really having a campaign which a company or the ministry really forks out the money..
we are only borrow their name and having a campaign in our campus.. we do not have much fund left in the acc.. so what for waste the money to go for printing??
in the end not enough money we have to pay again...
do u know that this campaign only 30% of our course mark??
and 1 this i really don understand is that what for form a sponsor group.
since we all also have to find a sponsor at least RM50 otherwise we have to pay the money ourselve..
and the most funniest thing is that the sponsor group member can claim their phone bill, toll, petrol and all this nonsense.. but we cannot.. lolx..
haiz.. really fed up with this campaign...
no, i wan to stick with the design that Dr.S approved.
But, most of the event outside will standardize the design of a campaign. change to another 1 will look better and it is more cost saving.
Dr.selva said cut and paste thing is those kindergarten do 1.. so we stick to the original backdrop. Some more the another design too formal d..
Today this conversation really pissed me off....
at the 1st told me that SHE want to stick to the design then my ex-lecture had approved 1...
but i thought this campaign suppose be be OUR campaign not only YOURS...
today i just realise that this campaign is owned by someone else not by whole team member..
feels like we are the part time woker which take RM80 or RM100 per day.. haha..
another funny part is that she told me the cut and paste thing is for kindergaden level not for uni level.. after that i get another feedback said that the another backdrop is too seirous too formal... wth... too formal cannot.. cut and paste u said is kindergarden's works??
and i wan to ask that do we really have those money to do the printing??
we are not really having a campaign which a company or the ministry really forks out the money..
we are only borrow their name and having a campaign in our campus.. we do not have much fund left in the acc.. so what for waste the money to go for printing??
in the end not enough money we have to pay again...
do u know that this campaign only 30% of our course mark??
and 1 this i really don understand is that what for form a sponsor group.
since we all also have to find a sponsor at least RM50 otherwise we have to pay the money ourselve..
and the most funniest thing is that the sponsor group member can claim their phone bill, toll, petrol and all this nonsense.. but we cannot.. lolx..
haiz.. really fed up with this campaign...
Monday, October 26, 2009
問題 @ 答案
Thursday, October 22, 2009
幸運 @ 衰運
十月十九日。。大學最后一個學期的開始。。
過了這幾個禮拜。。就得跟UTAR說再見了。。。
過后,一群“爛嬌” 朋友就要各奔東西
為自己的“錢”途打拚。。
今天,
是這個學期第一次為assignment presentation抽簽。。。
不懂是幸運還是倒霉。。。
我們又抽中了第一組。。。
忘了從幾時開始。。
我們都脫離不了第一組的命運。。。
印象最深的非Crisis Management莫屬了。。
教這一科的老師是有躁狂癥的。。
一不如他所愿。。
就會被“釘”出局。。。
幸好,我們四條水還是幸運過關。。。
還拿了9/10 的分數。。
真夠他媽的幸運。。。
其它的第一組。。我也忘了有哪些科目了。。。
希望這次的第一。。。
也會是個幸運的。。。
大家加油。。。
*************************************************************
讀了三年大學。。。
我學到什么。。。
哈哈。。。
兩個字。。
不懂~!!!!!!
過了這幾個禮拜。。就得跟UTAR說再見了。。。
過后,一群“爛嬌” 朋友就要各奔東西
為自己的“錢”途打拚。。
今天,
是這個學期第一次為assignment presentation抽簽。。。
不懂是幸運還是倒霉。。。
我們又抽中了第一組。。。
忘了從幾時開始。。
我們都脫離不了第一組的命運。。。
印象最深的非Crisis Management莫屬了。。
教這一科的老師是有躁狂癥的。。
一不如他所愿。。
就會被“釘”出局。。。
幸好,我們四條水還是幸運過關。。。
還拿了9/10 的分數。。
真夠他媽的幸運。。。
其它的第一組。。我也忘了有哪些科目了。。。
希望這次的第一。。。
也會是個幸運的。。。
大家加油。。。
*************************************************************
讀了三年大學。。。
我學到什么。。。
哈哈。。。
兩個字。。
不懂~!!!!!!
Friday, October 16, 2009
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
One More Time
今晚。。。
一整夜。。。
聽著這首歌。。。
Kenny G and Chanté Moore- One More time
一整夜。。。
聽著這首歌。。。
Kenny G and Chanté Moore- One More time
*****
I lie half awake, late at night
I reach out to touch you
feel you by my side
and I reach, and I reach,
but I never get to feel you
Will I ever get to feel you again, again
Just one more time
One more moment
To take you in my arms
One more chance
One more kiss
Before I wake to find you gone
One more time
Before I have to face another bad day,
and my heart breaks again
It's only a dream
but it's all so real
Don't want it to end
but I know it will
So I pray, and I pray
Every night I'm on my knees
Begging for the chance to see you
again, again
Just one more time
One more moment
To take you in my arms
One more chance
One more kiss
Before I wake to find you gone
One more time
Before I have to face another bad day,
and my heart breaks again
Oh one more time
Before I have to face another day,
and my heart breaks again
again...
*****
I lie half awake, late at night
I reach out to touch you
feel you by my side
and I reach, and I reach,
but I never get to feel you
Will I ever get to feel you again, again
Just one more time
One more moment
To take you in my arms
One more chance
One more kiss
Before I wake to find you gone
One more time
Before I have to face another bad day,
and my heart breaks again
It's only a dream
but it's all so real
Don't want it to end
but I know it will
So I pray, and I pray
Every night I'm on my knees
Begging for the chance to see you
again, again
Just one more time
One more moment
To take you in my arms
One more chance
One more kiss
Before I wake to find you gone
One more time
Before I have to face another bad day,
and my heart breaks again
Oh one more time
Before I have to face another day,
and my heart breaks again
again...
*****
sometimes, when we have make some mistakes we will ask for one more chance,
but then, how many of us really have one more chance...
Cheers..
for life.. for love.. for everything u have...
but then, how many of us really have one more chance...
Cheers..
for life.. for love.. for everything u have...
Sunday, September 27, 2009
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Monday, August 31, 2009
Monday, August 17, 2009
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
禮物 。 愛好 。一半
Sunday, August 2, 2009
道理
道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 道理 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
what the fucking hell is this....
Damn it!!!!!!
what the fucking hell is this....
Damn it!!!!!!
Monday, July 27, 2009
文章分享
有一個男人為了參加第二天的小學同學會,特地上街買一條新長褲。
他回家穿上後,卻發覺長度多了十公分。
於是請求媽媽替他改。媽媽說,身體不舒服,想早一點休息,今晚不想改。
於是改請求太太替他改。太太說,還有許多家事要做,今晚沒有時間改。
於是改請求女兒替他改。女兒說,今晚跟男朋友約好去跳舞,沒有時間改。
他想想,既然如此,明天穿舊的長褲去同學會也可以!
當天晚上,他媽媽心想:
「兒子平時對我很孝順,他開口要求總不好拒絕他。」
於是,起來替兒子改長褲,剪短了十公分。
他太太稍晚做完家事心想:
「老公平時很有耐心,今天他是不會縫針線才開口要求,總不好拒絕他。」
於是替先生改長褲,剪短了十公分。
他女兒晚上回來:
「爸爸不阻止我去跳舞,實在是開明的老爸,今天實在應該替他修改長褲。」
於是替爸爸改長褲,剪短了十公分。
第二天早上,三個女人分別告訴男主人此事。他一試長褲,已經變成吊腳褲了。
他的反應「是 ................」哈哈一笑,說:
「我一定要穿去給同學看,告訴他們,我的媽媽、太太、和女兒對我多好。」
結果,老同學們一致稱讚他家庭經營成功。他的媽媽、太太、和女兒也都很高興。
如果您是故事中的男人或女人,當下您會做何反應?
「哈哈一笑」抑或「破口大罵」?
人,面對外人時,總是可以表現得雍容大肚、心平氣和,但面對自己最親近的家人,卻
往往一點小事就足以皺起眉頭,甚至出言相傷。
如果形容人類是一種「出門高E.Q,回家低E.Q 」的動物,我想一點兒也不誇張,
多拿出一點耐心與幽默感給家人吧!否則您自己也不會快樂,不是嗎?
他回家穿上後,卻發覺長度多了十公分。
於是請求媽媽替他改。媽媽說,身體不舒服,想早一點休息,今晚不想改。
於是改請求太太替他改。太太說,還有許多家事要做,今晚沒有時間改。
於是改請求女兒替他改。女兒說,今晚跟男朋友約好去跳舞,沒有時間改。
他想想,既然如此,明天穿舊的長褲去同學會也可以!
當天晚上,他媽媽心想:
「兒子平時對我很孝順,他開口要求總不好拒絕他。」
於是,起來替兒子改長褲,剪短了十公分。
他太太稍晚做完家事心想:
「老公平時很有耐心,今天他是不會縫針線才開口要求,總不好拒絕他。」
於是替先生改長褲,剪短了十公分。
他女兒晚上回來:
「爸爸不阻止我去跳舞,實在是開明的老爸,今天實在應該替他修改長褲。」
於是替爸爸改長褲,剪短了十公分。
第二天早上,三個女人分別告訴男主人此事。他一試長褲,已經變成吊腳褲了。
他的反應「是 ................」哈哈一笑,說:
「我一定要穿去給同學看,告訴他們,我的媽媽、太太、和女兒對我多好。」
結果,老同學們一致稱讚他家庭經營成功。他的媽媽、太太、和女兒也都很高興。
如果您是故事中的男人或女人,當下您會做何反應?
「哈哈一笑」抑或「破口大罵」?
人,面對外人時,總是可以表現得雍容大肚、心平氣和,但面對自己最親近的家人,卻
往往一點小事就足以皺起眉頭,甚至出言相傷。
如果形容人類是一種「出門高E.Q,回家低E.Q 」的動物,我想一點兒也不誇張,
多拿出一點耐心與幽默感給家人吧!否則您自己也不會快樂,不是嗎?
可欣 @ 頭七
又是星期一了。。。
這個星期一有點特別。。
特別有紀念。。。
特別有感覺。。。
特別的等待。。。
特別的漫長。。。
今天。。。
是你-許可欣(Casey Koh)的頭七。。。
不懂今晚你會不會回家。。。。
不懂你會不會來八達嶺再也找我。。。
已經有三個禮拜沒見到你了。。。
希望今晚能與你相見。。。
casey這七天你到哪里去了。。。
有沒有想念我們??
我們都好想你。。。
我看尤其是老爸和大哥吧。。。
老爸看起來很兇的樣子。。
不過,他是很關心你的。。。
電話的另一端,
雖然他和大哥一樣,
裝得沒什么的樣子。。
不過,
我知道他們都為了你流了不少的眼淚。。。
我想大哥會很想念他為了你而請假的日子。。。
你還記得有一天你跑出去沒回家,
大哥請假。。老爸東主有喜,放下生意。。。
花了大半天把你找回來嗎。。。
你真的是讓我們不知該生氣還是高興。。。
哈哈。。。
兩個大男人放下工作就是為了找你。。。
以前。。每次你跑出去。。
老爸都會用他的老爺車把你載回來。。。
有時,我們三兄弟吃飽沒事。。
都會用老爸的老爺車載你出去兜風。。。
每次停在紅綠燈。。
你都會好奇地望著外面。。。
現在你是否也好奇的使出走走呢??
你走的那天。。。
他們也剛好全都請假在家。。。
你是不是特別選在大家都在家的時候跟我們告別呢。。。
如果是。。為什么不多等多一個禮拜。。。
至少,讓我跟你說再見。。。
不過,
沒關系。。。
我想你知道我是最愛哭的。。。
所以你不等我,
你也不想看到我哭吧。。。
雖然我答應你今晚不哭的寫這部落格。。。
不過,
很遺憾的,我沒做到。。。
對不起。。。
原諒我這一次。。。
就這么最后一次好嗎???
過了今晚我就不哭。。。
這個時候,
全家人都等著你回家吧。。。
老爸,老媽;
大哥,大嫂;
茵瑄,茵琦;
都等著你吧。。。。
我跟二哥會在另一處等你。。。。
你記得來找我們好嗎。。。
二哥那晚來找我眼眶也是紅紅泛著淚光。。。
我想一路上他也是流下不少的男兒淚。。。
今晚只好麻煩你來找我。。
好嗎??
因為我不懂你在哪。。。
今晚,記得跟我說你要什么。。。
Casey,tonight will you come??
i am waiting for you...
please drop by to my place...
even for just one second..
if possible....
let me hug you for one last time...
Goodbye Casey...
You will be MISSED....
這個星期一有點特別。。
特別有紀念。。。
特別有感覺。。。
特別的等待。。。
特別的漫長。。。
今天。。。
是你-許可欣(Casey Koh)的頭七。。。
不懂今晚你會不會回家。。。。
不懂你會不會來八達嶺再也找我。。。
已經有三個禮拜沒見到你了。。。
希望今晚能與你相見。。。
casey這七天你到哪里去了。。。
有沒有想念我們??
我們都好想你。。。
我看尤其是老爸和大哥吧。。。
老爸看起來很兇的樣子。。
不過,他是很關心你的。。。
電話的另一端,
雖然他和大哥一樣,
裝得沒什么的樣子。。
不過,
我知道他們都為了你流了不少的眼淚。。。
我想大哥會很想念他為了你而請假的日子。。。
你還記得有一天你跑出去沒回家,
大哥請假。。老爸東主有喜,放下生意。。。
花了大半天把你找回來嗎。。。
你真的是讓我們不知該生氣還是高興。。。
哈哈。。。
兩個大男人放下工作就是為了找你。。。
以前。。每次你跑出去。。
老爸都會用他的老爺車把你載回來。。。
有時,我們三兄弟吃飽沒事。。
都會用老爸的老爺車載你出去兜風。。。
每次停在紅綠燈。。
你都會好奇地望著外面。。。
現在你是否也好奇的使出走走呢??
你走的那天。。。
他們也剛好全都請假在家。。。
你是不是特別選在大家都在家的時候跟我們告別呢。。。
如果是。。為什么不多等多一個禮拜。。。
至少,讓我跟你說再見。。。
不過,
沒關系。。。
我想你知道我是最愛哭的。。。
所以你不等我,
你也不想看到我哭吧。。。
雖然我答應你今晚不哭的寫這部落格。。。
不過,
很遺憾的,我沒做到。。。
對不起。。。
原諒我這一次。。。
就這么最后一次好嗎???
過了今晚我就不哭。。。
這個時候,
全家人都等著你回家吧。。。
老爸,老媽;
大哥,大嫂;
茵瑄,茵琦;
都等著你吧。。。。
我跟二哥會在另一處等你。。。。
你記得來找我們好嗎。。。
二哥那晚來找我眼眶也是紅紅泛著淚光。。。
我想一路上他也是流下不少的男兒淚。。。
今晚只好麻煩你來找我。。
好嗎??
因為我不懂你在哪。。。
今晚,記得跟我說你要什么。。。
Casey,tonight will you come??
i am waiting for you...
please drop by to my place...
even for just one second..
if possible....
let me hug you for one last time...
Goodbye Casey...
You will be MISSED....
Saturday, July 25, 2009
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
失眠夜
*凌晨兩點四十五分*
躺在床上一個小時多。。。
翻來覆去。。
怎樣都睡不著。。。
明天。。
我又要帶著腫到不行的眼睛去學校。。。
唉。。。。
Casey Casey...
你現在怎樣了。。。
是不是和你的家人團聚了呢??
好想你。。。
躺在床上一個小時多。。。
翻來覆去。。
怎樣都睡不著。。。
明天。。
我又要帶著腫到不行的眼睛去學校。。。
唉。。。。
Casey Casey...
你現在怎樣了。。。
是不是和你的家人團聚了呢??
好想你。。。
Monday, July 20, 2009
一路好走
Tuesday, July 7, 2009
Monday, June 29, 2009
Saturday, June 27, 2009
You Are Not Alone
You Are Not Alone lyrics
Another day has gone
I'm still all alone
How could this be
You're not here with me
You never said goodbye
Someone tell me why
Did you have to go
And leave my world so cold
Everyday I sit and ask myself
How did love slip away
Something whispers in my ear and says
That you are not alone
For I am here with you
Though you're far away
I am here to stay
But you are not alone
For I am here with you
Though we're far apart
You're always in my heart
But you are not alone
'Lone, 'lone
Why, 'lone
Just the other night
I thought I heard you cry
Asking me to come
And hold you in my arms
I can hear your prayers
Your burdens I will bear
But first I need your hand
Then forever can begin
Everyday I sit and ask myself
How did love slip away
Something whispers in my ear and says
That you are not alone
For I am here with you
Though you're far away
I am here to stay
For you are not alone
For I am here with you
Though we're far apart
You're always in my heart
For you are not alone
Whisper three words and I'll come runnin'
And girl you know that I'll be there
I'll be there
You are not alone
For I am here with you
Though you're far away
I am here to stay
For you are not alone
For I am here with you
Though we're far apart
You're always in my heart
For you are not alone
For I am here with you
Though you're far away
I am here to stay
For you are not alone
For I am here with you
Though we're far apart
You're always in my heart
**R.I.P MJ**
Another day has gone
I'm still all alone
How could this be
You're not here with me
You never said goodbye
Someone tell me why
Did you have to go
And leave my world so cold
Everyday I sit and ask myself
How did love slip away
Something whispers in my ear and says
That you are not alone
For I am here with you
Though you're far away
I am here to stay
But you are not alone
For I am here with you
Though we're far apart
You're always in my heart
But you are not alone
'Lone, 'lone
Why, 'lone
Just the other night
I thought I heard you cry
Asking me to come
And hold you in my arms
I can hear your prayers
Your burdens I will bear
But first I need your hand
Then forever can begin
Everyday I sit and ask myself
How did love slip away
Something whispers in my ear and says
That you are not alone
For I am here with you
Though you're far away
I am here to stay
For you are not alone
For I am here with you
Though we're far apart
You're always in my heart
For you are not alone
Whisper three words and I'll come runnin'
And girl you know that I'll be there
I'll be there
You are not alone
For I am here with you
Though you're far away
I am here to stay
For you are not alone
For I am here with you
Though we're far apart
You're always in my heart
For you are not alone
For I am here with you
Though you're far away
I am here to stay
For you are not alone
For I am here with you
Though we're far apart
You're always in my heart
**R.I.P MJ**
Thursday, June 25, 2009
摩托稀客-1
250609
一群傻男傻女。。。。
放學沒事做。。。
決定下petaling street來個美食之旅。。。
首先,
是那里有名的燒魚。。。
再來。。。
就是很“美味”的肉干面包。。。(他媽的搞錯攤位)
過后就去吃牛雜湯。。。
最后。。
到了一位要蓋我們麻袋的阿姨的檔口吃laksa
吃了這么多檔口。。。
笑聲在這里最多。。。
個個都怕被阿姨蓋麻袋。。。
哈哈。。。
本來還沒那么怕。。。
當他說了:“有沒有搞錯” 過后。。
我們笑聲更大。。。
回家路上。。。
兩位“鬼婆”應該沒看過六個傻佬一起出街。。
所以。。她們一直望著我們。。。
哈哈。。。
為了讓這美食之旅有個完美的句點。。
大頭冰在我的摩托上補了一腳。。。
哈哈。。。。
在回家的路上。。。
她的笑聲。。蓋過摩托的聲音。。。
名副其實的傻婆。。。
一群傻男傻女。。。。
放學沒事做。。。
決定下petaling street來個美食之旅。。。
首先,
是那里有名的燒魚。。。
再來。。。
就是很“美味”的肉干面包。。。(他媽的搞錯攤位)
過后就去吃牛雜湯。。。
最后。。
到了一位要蓋我們麻袋的阿姨的檔口吃laksa
吃了這么多檔口。。。
笑聲在這里最多。。。
個個都怕被阿姨蓋麻袋。。。
哈哈。。。
本來還沒那么怕。。。
當他說了:“有沒有搞錯” 過后。。
我們笑聲更大。。。
回家路上。。。
兩位“鬼婆”應該沒看過六個傻佬一起出街。。
所以。。她們一直望著我們。。。
哈哈。。。
為了讓這美食之旅有個完美的句點。。
大頭冰在我的摩托上補了一腳。。。
哈哈。。。。
在回家的路上。。。
她的笑聲。。蓋過摩托的聲音。。。
名副其實的傻婆。。。
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
是优点是缺点
午夜,男人搂着女人快要呼呼入睡之际,女人突然撒娇开口说:
你有没有发觉我俩很久没出去拍拖,约会了?
男人迷迷糊糊的说道,
有啊,上个星期我们不是去了看电影吃晚餐吗?
女人不忿的说,
什么?上个星期你带我去pasar malam吃路边摊?那也算啊?
你怎么那么没情趣,浪漫一点不行吗?
男人轻抚女人的头发温柔的说,
亲爱的,好好,下个星期我们去约会,不吃路边摊。
说完不久,男人就倒头入睡了,女人即刻扁起了嘴,
自个儿生闷气,睡不着。
脑袋不断的在想:到底上一次俩人一块儿去浪漫晚餐是什么时候了?
女人越想越懊恼,原来上一次去高级餐厅浪漫晚餐,
已经是半年前的事情了。
想啊想啊,不自觉的把回忆倒带回到了她和男人初相识的那段日子,
还记得,那时候的他和自己身边的狂蜂浪蝶不一样,
没有花言巧语,没有高级晚餐,没有贵重礼物,
就这样的偶尔带自己去吃路边摊,上山顶吹风聊天,
就已经觉得格外温馨甜蜜了。
想到这里,女人微笑了,
看一看身边的他,释怀了,
他原来依然还是以前的他。
还记得,女人刚认识男人的时候,
就是欣赏他的不花俏,欣赏他的那份踏实,不做作;
现在的男人还是和以前一样,他一直都没变,
什么时候起,男人当初的优点变了如今的缺点呢?
有时候,
女人嫌弃男人的不浪漫,
可是却忘记了当初让自己爱上的,
就是男人那份忠厚不花俏的性格。
有时候,
女人埋怨男人太顺爸爸妈妈意,都把父母排在第一位,
可是却忘记了当初让自己爱上的,
就是第一眼看见这男人孝顺的牵着爸妈的手一起逛街的模样。
有时候,
女人埋怨男人因为工作而冷落了自己,没有时间陪伴自己,
可是却忘记了当初让自己爱上的,
就是男人的那份上进心,对理想的热诚和不放弃的精神。
有时候,有时候。。。
女人不断埋怨的当儿,是否应该静静的想一想,
到底自己当初爱上的是一个怎样的男人?
你是不是慢慢的让他的优点,
在自己不断改变的要求下,
成了你眼中的缺点?
××摘自紅磨坊
一篇很有意識的文章。。
你有没有发觉我俩很久没出去拍拖,约会了?
男人迷迷糊糊的说道,
有啊,上个星期我们不是去了看电影吃晚餐吗?
女人不忿的说,
什么?上个星期你带我去pasar malam吃路边摊?那也算啊?
你怎么那么没情趣,浪漫一点不行吗?
男人轻抚女人的头发温柔的说,
亲爱的,好好,下个星期我们去约会,不吃路边摊。
说完不久,男人就倒头入睡了,女人即刻扁起了嘴,
自个儿生闷气,睡不着。
脑袋不断的在想:到底上一次俩人一块儿去浪漫晚餐是什么时候了?
女人越想越懊恼,原来上一次去高级餐厅浪漫晚餐,
已经是半年前的事情了。
想啊想啊,不自觉的把回忆倒带回到了她和男人初相识的那段日子,
还记得,那时候的他和自己身边的狂蜂浪蝶不一样,
没有花言巧语,没有高级晚餐,没有贵重礼物,
就这样的偶尔带自己去吃路边摊,上山顶吹风聊天,
就已经觉得格外温馨甜蜜了。
想到这里,女人微笑了,
看一看身边的他,释怀了,
他原来依然还是以前的他。
还记得,女人刚认识男人的时候,
就是欣赏他的不花俏,欣赏他的那份踏实,不做作;
现在的男人还是和以前一样,他一直都没变,
什么时候起,男人当初的优点变了如今的缺点呢?
有时候,
女人嫌弃男人的不浪漫,
可是却忘记了当初让自己爱上的,
就是男人那份忠厚不花俏的性格。
有时候,
女人埋怨男人太顺爸爸妈妈意,都把父母排在第一位,
可是却忘记了当初让自己爱上的,
就是第一眼看见这男人孝顺的牵着爸妈的手一起逛街的模样。
有时候,
女人埋怨男人因为工作而冷落了自己,没有时间陪伴自己,
可是却忘记了当初让自己爱上的,
就是男人的那份上进心,对理想的热诚和不放弃的精神。
有时候,有时候。。。
女人不断埋怨的当儿,是否应该静静的想一想,
到底自己当初爱上的是一个怎样的男人?
你是不是慢慢的让他的优点,
在自己不断改变的要求下,
成了你眼中的缺点?
××摘自紅磨坊
一篇很有意識的文章。。
Sunday, May 31, 2009
Thursday, May 28, 2009
报告
本来脖子已经很长了。。。
这几天等报告出炉。。
等到脖子变得更长乐。。。
哈哈。。。
再多几个小时。。。
就可以去拿报告了。。
希望会没事。。。
希望只需要药物治疗。。
不用镭射或动手术。。。
我不要戴着黑眼镜到处走。。。
很“排色”的咯。。。
这几天等报告出炉。。
等到脖子变得更长乐。。。
哈哈。。。
再多几个小时。。。
就可以去拿报告了。。
希望会没事。。。
希望只需要药物治疗。。
不用镭射或动手术。。。
我不要戴着黑眼镜到处走。。。
很“排色”的咯。。。
Friday, May 22, 2009
相信每个人对Facebook真的很佩服吧。。。
我本人很佩服它也是facebook迷。。
它让我找回了以前的朋友。。 一些好久不见失去联络的朋友。。。
但是,它的存在到底是好的呢。。。
"when facebook connecting everyone together,at the same time facebook are splitting human's relationship slowly into pieces, and eventually creates a virtual society, which our future youngster dont know how to make friend without this gadget"
我本人很佩服它也是facebook迷。。
它让我找回了以前的朋友。。 一些好久不见失去联络的朋友。。。
但是,它的存在到底是好的呢。。。
"when facebook connecting everyone together,at the same time facebook are splitting human's relationship slowly into pieces, and eventually creates a virtual society, which our future youngster dont know how to make friend without this gadget"
成绩放榜 @ 报告出炉
差不多有一个月没回来这里了。。。
假期的这几个礼拜都忙着去检查。。。
希望会没事。。。
今天。。成绩终于放榜了。。。
全部过关。。 泰开心了。。
连我最担心的Crisis Management都过关了。。。
下个礼拜。。
报告要出了。。
希望不用开刀或镭射。。。
保佑保佑。。。。
假期的这几个礼拜都忙着去检查。。。
希望会没事。。。
今天。。成绩终于放榜了。。。
全部过关。。 泰开心了。。
连我最担心的Crisis Management都过关了。。。
下个礼拜。。
报告要出了。。
希望不用开刀或镭射。。。
保佑保佑。。。。
Monday, May 4, 2009
勇氣 。抉擇
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
祝我生日快樂
今天,我二十三歲了。。。
二十三年來。。
我做過什么東西??
有什么成就???
想一想。。
真的沒生么成就。。。。
追光榮的就只不過在Form5那年拿到全麻U-18排球賽冠軍。。
過后。。。唉。。。
一事無成。。。。
羽球。。也只是到四強。。。
還有什么呢??
沒有了吧。。。 哈哈。。。
現在的成績。。
也是得過且過。。。
過得了關。。
出不了場面。。。
唉。。。。
未來的日子。。。
會是怎樣的呢。。。
不管了。。。
祝自己生日快樂。。。
愿這次的考試成績不會太難看。。。
TRM能順利過關。。。
哈哈。。。
二十三年來。。
我做過什么東西??
有什么成就???
想一想。。
真的沒生么成就。。。。
追光榮的就只不過在Form5那年拿到全麻U-18排球賽冠軍。。
過后。。。唉。。。
一事無成。。。。
羽球。。也只是到四強。。。
還有什么呢??
沒有了吧。。。 哈哈。。。
現在的成績。。
也是得過且過。。。
過得了關。。
出不了場面。。。
唉。。。。
未來的日子。。。
會是怎樣的呢。。。
不管了。。。
祝自己生日快樂。。。
愿這次的考試成績不會太難看。。。
TRM能順利過關。。。
哈哈。。。
Wednesday, April 22, 2009
Friday, April 17, 2009
一日游-布特拉再也
昨天因為是這個學期最后一天上課。。
所以就和我的大笨蛋去了布特拉再也。。。
原本以為那里沒什么特別。。
哪知道到了那里真的是另眼相看。。。
真的是個不一樣的城市。。。
在那里。。
有著城市的建筑。。
但是沒有城市的繁華。。。
空氣也比一般城市更清新。。。
路大車少。。。
真的是一級棒。。。
在哪,有很多的TAMAN。。。
全都是免費的。。
工作人員也很友善。。。
不像吉隆坡這里的那么藍斯。。。
經過昨天。。
我和笨蛋都想在那里生活。。。
那里來PJ只不過三十分鐘。。。
所以還不算很遠。。
不過那兒的房子好貴。。。
雙層排屋都得RM400000++
回到家雖然很累。。。
不過,一切都是值得的。。。
布特拉再也。。。
你等我。。。
我會回來的。。。。
等我事業有成我一定會在那里購買產業。。。
哈哈。。。
Sunday, April 12, 2009
Thursday, April 9, 2009
攝影
Monday, April 6, 2009
I LOVE L.I.F.E
I Love Life...
到底我們有多Love Life 呢??
生命是寶貴的。。
不過它很脆弱。。
有些人熱愛他們的人生。。
不過,
他們卻只有短暫的人生。。
有些人不愛惜生命。。
但他們卻活到七老八十。。。
人生到底是場夢還是是一場戲??
我是許統烈。。I LOVE LIFE...
到底我們有多Love Life 呢??
生命是寶貴的。。
不過它很脆弱。。
有些人熱愛他們的人生。。
不過,
他們卻只有短暫的人生。。
有些人不愛惜生命。。
但他們卻活到七老八十。。。
人生到底是場夢還是是一場戲??
我是許統烈。。I LOVE LIFE...
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Life
Life is short.
Break the rules,
forgive quickly,
kiss passionately,
love truly
laugh constantly,
and never stop smiling
no matter how strange life is.
Life is not always the party we expected to be
but as long as we are here, we should smile and be grateful.
Break the rules,
forgive quickly,
kiss passionately,
love truly
laugh constantly,
and never stop smiling
no matter how strange life is.
Life is not always the party we expected to be
but as long as we are here, we should smile and be grateful.
Life
Life is short.
Break the rules,
forgive quickly,
kiss passionately,
love truly
laugh constantly,
and never stop smiling
no matter how strange life is.
Life is not always the party we expected to be
but as long as we are here, we should smile and be grateful.
Break the rules,
forgive quickly,
kiss passionately,
love truly
laugh constantly,
and never stop smiling
no matter how strange life is.
Life is not always the party we expected to be
but as long as we are here, we should smile and be grateful.
朋友
谢谢你...
谢谢你在你的部落格里的一字一句...
真的是很感谢你...
如果不是因为看了你的部落格,
我想我不可能知道这阵子究竟你是怎样想的...
你说,每个人对感情的看法都不一样..
我很赞同.
就像我和你一样..我们的看法都不一样...
你会为了一个不知道有没有将来的他付出一切,
而我,
不会为了别人的看法跟她在一起..
你怪我为什么可以不顾他,跟她在一起..
你怪我拉他陪我出门,不让他陪你..
你怪我没站在他的立场..
那我问你..
为什么我要顾及到他??
陪我一世人的是她,不是他..
我拉他出门??
那你应该问他到底是我拉他出门的吗??
好多的问号..
终于在今晚找到了答案...
真的要谢谢你...
认识你快两年...
今天,终于知道你也是一位带着面具的朋友...
谢谢你的部落格...
谢谢你在你的部落格里的一字一句...
真的是很感谢你...
如果不是因为看了你的部落格,
我想我不可能知道这阵子究竟你是怎样想的...
你说,每个人对感情的看法都不一样..
我很赞同.
就像我和你一样..我们的看法都不一样...
你会为了一个不知道有没有将来的他付出一切,
而我,
不会为了别人的看法跟她在一起..
你怪我为什么可以不顾他,跟她在一起..
你怪我拉他陪我出门,不让他陪你..
你怪我没站在他的立场..
那我问你..
为什么我要顾及到他??
陪我一世人的是她,不是他..
我拉他出门??
那你应该问他到底是我拉他出门的吗??
好多的问号..
终于在今晚找到了答案...
真的要谢谢你...
认识你快两年...
今天,终于知道你也是一位带着面具的朋友...
谢谢你的部落格...
Monday, March 30, 2009
清明 a.ka.a 孝道
很多人都認為清明是個為了紀念過世的親人的日子,也是華人的一個文化。。。
不過,
對我而言,清明不只是紀念親人,
它也能讓一家人團聚。。。
華人的種種節日,背后都只有一個目的。。。
那就是“一家團聚”
清明對我而言是一個最能讓一家團聚的日子。。
因為每個人都只有一個父母親。。
新年,可能我們還有自己的家庭。。還得回娘家。。。
每個人都忙著拜年。。。
清明可不一樣。。每個人坐在一起折金紙。。
一邊為先人盡孝心,一遍又能一家人在哪說笑。。。
今年回去勺目時,看見公公婆婆的“鄰居” 已經很久沒人來拜了。。。
墳墓周圍的獅子已經變黑了。。墳墓周圍的雕刻和字都已褪色。。。
不懂他的后代是忘了他還是怎么了。。
看到這種場面,
以后我會選擇火化。。
那至少我的后代忘了我,我還有廟里的香火。。。
不會那么孤獨。。。
哈哈。。。
今年的清明,你回家了嗎??
你有多久沒回家了呢??
如果已經有一段日子,不如趁這個節日回家吧。。。。
不過,
對我而言,清明不只是紀念親人,
它也能讓一家人團聚。。。
華人的種種節日,背后都只有一個目的。。。
那就是“一家團聚”
清明對我而言是一個最能讓一家團聚的日子。。
因為每個人都只有一個父母親。。
新年,可能我們還有自己的家庭。。還得回娘家。。。
每個人都忙著拜年。。。
清明可不一樣。。每個人坐在一起折金紙。。
一邊為先人盡孝心,一遍又能一家人在哪說笑。。。
今年回去勺目時,看見公公婆婆的“鄰居” 已經很久沒人來拜了。。。
墳墓周圍的獅子已經變黑了。。墳墓周圍的雕刻和字都已褪色。。。
不懂他的后代是忘了他還是怎么了。。
看到這種場面,
以后我會選擇火化。。
那至少我的后代忘了我,我還有廟里的香火。。。
不會那么孤獨。。。
哈哈。。。
今年的清明,你回家了嗎??
你有多久沒回家了呢??
如果已經有一段日子,不如趁這個節日回家吧。。。。
Monday, March 2, 2009
Monday, February 16, 2009
我要快樂
我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂我要快樂!!!!!!
我!!!要!!!快!!!樂!!!
我!!!要!!!快!!!樂!!!
女人
Monday, February 9, 2009
年十五
先在這祝大家農歷情人節快樂。。。
這幾天,屋里多了一個怪物。。。 一位玩自閉的屋友。。哈哈。。。
相信他是不爽一些事情而高自閉的。。但是別理他。。。因為他是早產兒。。哈哈。。。 少了幾條經。。。
this few days really feel weird... even me myself also can't describe it... hope this kind of stupid feelings go far far away from me...
coming thursday is another deadlines for my assignment submission.. haiz... really stress.. this semester since week 1 have been busy wit all the assignment preparation..damn it...even CNY also have to do assignment at home..
Maybe i really have to learn Sam jie... Need some rocks... or maybe now i need some red wine...to relax.. to enjoy...to escape from all of this...
2nite chat wit 1 friend... got something really useful for me... thanks CK...
wish healthy always stay wit u...
take care...
這幾天,屋里多了一個怪物。。。 一位玩自閉的屋友。。哈哈。。。
相信他是不爽一些事情而高自閉的。。但是別理他。。。因為他是早產兒。。哈哈。。。 少了幾條經。。。
this few days really feel weird... even me myself also can't describe it... hope this kind of stupid feelings go far far away from me...
coming thursday is another deadlines for my assignment submission.. haiz... really stress.. this semester since week 1 have been busy wit all the assignment preparation..damn it...even CNY also have to do assignment at home..
Maybe i really have to learn Sam jie... Need some rocks... or maybe now i need some red wine...to relax.. to enjoy...to escape from all of this...
2nite chat wit 1 friend... got something really useful for me... thanks CK...
wish healthy always stay wit u...
take care...
Saturday, February 7, 2009
幼稚
昨晚被一個人弄到很煩。。。
他媽的人都二十三歲了。。還這么的幼稚。。。
什么是都搬上網說。。。什么事私底下解決不行嗎??
非要到“面書”和你的msn personal msg里讓全部人知道??
吊~!!!
很不明白這種人是什么想法的。。。
難道這是種博同情的方法??
他媽的人都二十三歲了。。還這么的幼稚。。。
什么是都搬上網說。。。什么事私底下解決不行嗎??
非要到“面書”和你的msn personal msg里讓全部人知道??
吊~!!!
很不明白這種人是什么想法的。。。
難道這是種博同情的方法??
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
夫妻
什么是夫妻。。到底它帶著什么意義呢??
想信每對夫妻都是認識了有一段日子,在結為夫妻的。。。
也因為這樣,他們應該更了解彼此。。不是嗎??
在我身邊有許多對夫妻。。。
只有一對夫妻讓我感到煩惱。。。
他們是我的親人。。。
這對夫妻。。經歷了很多才再在一起。。。
不過,他們婚后遇到了更多的問題。。。
老婆的脾氣有點孤僻。。不喜歡熱鬧。。。
但是,
她又嫁給一個來至大家庭的老公。。。
老公的家庭時常有大日子。。
每次大日子,一定全部親朋戚友都到齊。。
老婆太緊張她們的孩子。。。
老婆市場上網尋找最好的方法來養育兒子。。。
她從網上找來了食譜,
她從網上得知小孩幾歲錢不能吃什么,幾歲該吃什么。。。
每次吵架,老婆都會要老公去哄她。。
每次吵架,老婆會不理不睬。。
每次吵架,老婆都會提出離婚。。。
有時,老婆會把孩子抱走。。不讓老公見他。。
每次吵架,老公會保持沉默的走掉。。
每次吵架,老公會一個人坐在電視機前流淚。。
每次吵架,老公都會舍不得孩子而忍氣吞聲。。。
他只想看新聞。。。
因為這是他出外交際跟客戶談的話題。。。
這是他賺錢的方法。。。
他不是不要陪孩子。。
如果他不要陪他。。
那為何要每晚從雪邦駕車來白沙羅這里看孩子??
不懂還有多少次的爭吵。。。
希望這次是最后一次了。。。。
我不想再看到了。。感到厭倦了。。。
很多東西。。一旦真的發生是無法收拾的。。
覆水難收。。。切記。。。
如果你說他不懂照顧小孩,對小孩沒什么貢獻。。只貢獻精子。。。
這公平嗎??
沒有他在外打拼。。
你能住的這么舒適。。
沒到兩歲的孩子能穿名牌出街嗎??
小弟我吃到二十一歲才第一次買一件Gap的衣服。。
你兒子才六個月就穿著Gap的衣服到處走。。。
而且不是一兩件。。。。
人家的小孩生病到診所。。
你的小孩到Sunway Medical Centre。。
這些不是他為孩子所付出的嗎??
他想換輛大點的車,
但,
想到孩子,他又卻步。。
因為他知道孩子比他駕大輛車來得重要。。。
婚前的他。。什么都是名牌。。。
婚后的他。。什么都是最便宜。。。
想一想。。他沒貢獻嗎??
真的只是貢獻精子罷了嗎??
你很疼你的孩子。。這是無可否認的。。。
不過,你是否有點過分的保護呢??
一歲前不能吃蛋,兩歲前只能吃蛋白。。。
著什么道理??哪個醫生說的??
這些都是Forum里的東西。。
一點根據都沒有。。。
上網,也上些有根據的。。。
聽些專家的意見。。。
別聽那些師奶的意見。。。。
很煩。。。
別什么都計較。。。
要計較的話。。。
那做夫妻有什么意思??
想信每對夫妻都是認識了有一段日子,在結為夫妻的。。。
也因為這樣,他們應該更了解彼此。。不是嗎??
在我身邊有許多對夫妻。。。
只有一對夫妻讓我感到煩惱。。。
他們是我的親人。。。
這對夫妻。。經歷了很多才再在一起。。。
不過,他們婚后遇到了更多的問題。。。
老婆的脾氣有點孤僻。。不喜歡熱鬧。。。
但是,
她又嫁給一個來至大家庭的老公。。。
老公的家庭時常有大日子。。
每次大日子,一定全部親朋戚友都到齊。。
老婆太緊張她們的孩子。。。
老婆市場上網尋找最好的方法來養育兒子。。。
她從網上找來了食譜,
她從網上得知小孩幾歲錢不能吃什么,幾歲該吃什么。。。
每次吵架,老婆都會要老公去哄她。。
每次吵架,老婆會不理不睬。。
每次吵架,老婆都會提出離婚。。。
有時,老婆會把孩子抱走。。不讓老公見他。。
每次吵架,老公會保持沉默的走掉。。
每次吵架,老公會一個人坐在電視機前流淚。。
每次吵架,老公都會舍不得孩子而忍氣吞聲。。。
他只想看新聞。。。
因為這是他出外交際跟客戶談的話題。。。
這是他賺錢的方法。。。
他不是不要陪孩子。。
如果他不要陪他。。
那為何要每晚從雪邦駕車來白沙羅這里看孩子??
不懂還有多少次的爭吵。。。
希望這次是最后一次了。。。。
我不想再看到了。。感到厭倦了。。。
很多東西。。一旦真的發生是無法收拾的。。
覆水難收。。。切記。。。
如果你說他不懂照顧小孩,對小孩沒什么貢獻。。只貢獻精子。。。
這公平嗎??
沒有他在外打拼。。
你能住的這么舒適。。
沒到兩歲的孩子能穿名牌出街嗎??
小弟我吃到二十一歲才第一次買一件Gap的衣服。。
你兒子才六個月就穿著Gap的衣服到處走。。。
而且不是一兩件。。。。
人家的小孩生病到診所。。
你的小孩到Sunway Medical Centre。。
這些不是他為孩子所付出的嗎??
他想換輛大點的車,
但,
想到孩子,他又卻步。。
因為他知道孩子比他駕大輛車來得重要。。。
婚前的他。。什么都是名牌。。。
婚后的他。。什么都是最便宜。。。
想一想。。他沒貢獻嗎??
真的只是貢獻精子罷了嗎??
你很疼你的孩子。。這是無可否認的。。。
不過,你是否有點過分的保護呢??
一歲前不能吃蛋,兩歲前只能吃蛋白。。。
著什么道理??哪個醫生說的??
這些都是Forum里的東西。。
一點根據都沒有。。。
上網,也上些有根據的。。。
聽些專家的意見。。。
別聽那些師奶的意見。。。。
很煩。。。
別什么都計較。。。
要計較的話。。。
那做夫妻有什么意思??
Sunday, February 1, 2009
Coping with breakup guilt
An interesting article from CLoveTwo
Guilt is an emotion that arises when a normal, feeling person acts in conflict with his or her values - values which pertain to subjective notions of good or bad, right or wrong. Guilt gets intensified when the actions of the "guilty" person in some way hurt another person.
When a relationship is ended or about to be ended, there is frequently plenty of guilt to go around.
For example, the person who chooses to end a relationship commonly suffers from a phenomenon known as "dumper guilt." But even in the circumstance where both partners mutually agree to part, there is typically guilt experienced by both - guilt over what they did or didn't do, what they should or shouldn't have done, guilt over the failure of their relationship, in general, and guilt over the effect of their parting on their children, in particular.
What purpose does guilt serve?
Guilt can be one of the most compelling of all human emotions. It can be so compelling in fact, that it quite commonly leads to anxiety and depression, sometimes lasting for years. The purpose that guilt serves is to remind us of where our fence posts are placed, so to speak, on the boundaries of our value system.
In other words, when we cross over our boundary lines, acting in contradiction to our values, we are forced to pay a price. We get beset by feelings of uneasiness, self-loathing and ultimately shame.
In short, the purpose that guilt serves is to keep our behaviour in check. Were it not for this mechanism, we would all be unfeeling sociopaths whose actions and effects on others would have no internal accountability.
Putting guilt in perspective
If you have recently ended a relationship or are contemplating the ending of your current one and you are feeling guilty about it, whether you initiated or will initiate "the split," or whether it was or will be mutual, there are five things to consider:
* You should take some comfort in knowing that the guilt you are experiencing means that you are a normal, feeling person who has simply violated an internal boundary within your own value system. Violating your values does not necessarily make you a bad person.
* Even though you have violated your own value system, it does not mean that the ending of your relationship is somehow wrong. It may simply mean that you went about it in a less than appropriate way, that you may have given conflicting signals to your partner, created false expectations, and the like, or it may just reflect your concern for your children, if you have them.
* A relationship is a joint enterprise, and its failure is not all your doing. So do not fall into the trap of taking all the responsibility for the demise of your relationship, even if you may have been the one who chose to end it.
* There is appropriate guilt and inappropriate guilt. Inappropriate guilt derives from an overly officious or judgmental value system in which you are constantly trying to live up to the standards of others, or feel overly responsible for your actions or the feelings of others. If this is the case, try to go a little easier on yourself. Guilt should be reasonable, not disproportionate.
* Guilt can make us feel so bad, that we will often devise defenses against it, and look for ways to absolve ourselves of it. Consequently, you might find yourself being irrationally angry with your ex-partner, unduly consoling, or engaging with your ex in the blame game.
To avoid this, you really need to spend some time alone and get clear as to where your guilt is emanating from, and then try to come to terms with it.
Gaining clarity
To gain clarity about the guilt you are experiencing, try the following exercise. Get a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. On the left hand side at the top of the page, write "actions." On the right hand side of the top of the page, write "values."
Now beginning on the left hand side of the page, begin listing all of the actions you have recently taken about which you are feeling guilty. These might include things like: I ended my relationship; I yelled at my ex; I told him/her that he/she was no good; I cheated on him/her, etc.
Now on the right hand side, begin listing all of your values: This might include things like: I do not abandon others; I uphold my commitments; being dependable is everything; I love my children, etc.
Now when you're done, try to connect certain of your actions to certain of your values, and determine where there is a disconnect. In other words, which of your actions violated which values. By going through this process, you should achieve more clarity about where your guilt is emanating from, and this may better help you to reconcile and make amends with it.
Achieving forgiveness
When a relationship has ended, it is unrealistic to expect that your ex-partner or your children, for that matter, are going to forgive you any time soon for all the hurts that the ending of your relationship has caused, particularly if you were the one who initiated the breakup.
In fact, you may find that the more you interact with your ex or your children, the more they may try to play your guilt strings. Therefore, the only option you have is to learn to forgive yourself.
The best way to accomplish this is through two techniques. The first is a body awareness technique. This should be done over a period of days or even weeks. It's very simple.
Simply find a quiet, private place where you will be alone and undisturbed. Now sit with your eyes closed, relax and let your mind focus on your body. See if you can locate the area within your body that is storing the guilt energy.
Often this will be some part of your musculature that is tight. Once you locate it, do not resist it, go into it. Allow your musculature to loosen. If you feel like crying, do so. If the guilt is pressing down on you, let it take you. The purpose of this exercise is to get you to acknowledge and confront the guilt.
After all guilt is a feeling, and that feeling is stored somewhere in your body musculature. By doing this, the guilt will have less power over you and you will begin to make amends with it.
The second exercise involves journalling and letter writing. The first thing you need to do is write a narrative chronicling your relationship from its beginning, right through to your breakup. Do not lay blame either on yourself or your partner. Simply recount the history of your relationship.
Next you are going to write four letters. The first one (do not send it) is a letter of confession addressed to your ex in which you confess to your ex all the things you did to contribute to the failure of your relationship; the next letter is addressed to your ex (do not send it) in which you ask for his or her forgiveness; the next is a letter to your children, if applicable, (do not send it) in which you ask for their forgiveness for your breakup, and in which you pledge to continue on as a loving parent who will be forever committed to their well-being; and the last is a letter to yourself in which you identify what things you did in the course of your relationship that violated your values, and how you intend to avoid those violations in the future.
At the end of this letter, forgive yourself for violating these values, and for your part in contributing to the failure of your relationship. When you have finished, you should notice that the guilt has dissipated somewhat, if it not entirely.
It is so often true that we learn more about ourselves through our suffering than we do through our joy. Though it is painful, it has so much to teach us about ourselves. It forces us to look inward and to get a clearer picture of what our values are - indeed it helps to define them.
© 2009, Breakup911
Guilt is an emotion that arises when a normal, feeling person acts in conflict with his or her values - values which pertain to subjective notions of good or bad, right or wrong. Guilt gets intensified when the actions of the "guilty" person in some way hurt another person.
When a relationship is ended or about to be ended, there is frequently plenty of guilt to go around.
For example, the person who chooses to end a relationship commonly suffers from a phenomenon known as "dumper guilt." But even in the circumstance where both partners mutually agree to part, there is typically guilt experienced by both - guilt over what they did or didn't do, what they should or shouldn't have done, guilt over the failure of their relationship, in general, and guilt over the effect of their parting on their children, in particular.
What purpose does guilt serve?
Guilt can be one of the most compelling of all human emotions. It can be so compelling in fact, that it quite commonly leads to anxiety and depression, sometimes lasting for years. The purpose that guilt serves is to remind us of where our fence posts are placed, so to speak, on the boundaries of our value system.
In other words, when we cross over our boundary lines, acting in contradiction to our values, we are forced to pay a price. We get beset by feelings of uneasiness, self-loathing and ultimately shame.
In short, the purpose that guilt serves is to keep our behaviour in check. Were it not for this mechanism, we would all be unfeeling sociopaths whose actions and effects on others would have no internal accountability.
Putting guilt in perspective
If you have recently ended a relationship or are contemplating the ending of your current one and you are feeling guilty about it, whether you initiated or will initiate "the split," or whether it was or will be mutual, there are five things to consider:
* You should take some comfort in knowing that the guilt you are experiencing means that you are a normal, feeling person who has simply violated an internal boundary within your own value system. Violating your values does not necessarily make you a bad person.
* Even though you have violated your own value system, it does not mean that the ending of your relationship is somehow wrong. It may simply mean that you went about it in a less than appropriate way, that you may have given conflicting signals to your partner, created false expectations, and the like, or it may just reflect your concern for your children, if you have them.
* A relationship is a joint enterprise, and its failure is not all your doing. So do not fall into the trap of taking all the responsibility for the demise of your relationship, even if you may have been the one who chose to end it.
* There is appropriate guilt and inappropriate guilt. Inappropriate guilt derives from an overly officious or judgmental value system in which you are constantly trying to live up to the standards of others, or feel overly responsible for your actions or the feelings of others. If this is the case, try to go a little easier on yourself. Guilt should be reasonable, not disproportionate.
* Guilt can make us feel so bad, that we will often devise defenses against it, and look for ways to absolve ourselves of it. Consequently, you might find yourself being irrationally angry with your ex-partner, unduly consoling, or engaging with your ex in the blame game.
To avoid this, you really need to spend some time alone and get clear as to where your guilt is emanating from, and then try to come to terms with it.
Gaining clarity
To gain clarity about the guilt you are experiencing, try the following exercise. Get a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. On the left hand side at the top of the page, write "actions." On the right hand side of the top of the page, write "values."
Now beginning on the left hand side of the page, begin listing all of the actions you have recently taken about which you are feeling guilty. These might include things like: I ended my relationship; I yelled at my ex; I told him/her that he/she was no good; I cheated on him/her, etc.
Now on the right hand side, begin listing all of your values: This might include things like: I do not abandon others; I uphold my commitments; being dependable is everything; I love my children, etc.
Now when you're done, try to connect certain of your actions to certain of your values, and determine where there is a disconnect. In other words, which of your actions violated which values. By going through this process, you should achieve more clarity about where your guilt is emanating from, and this may better help you to reconcile and make amends with it.
Achieving forgiveness
When a relationship has ended, it is unrealistic to expect that your ex-partner or your children, for that matter, are going to forgive you any time soon for all the hurts that the ending of your relationship has caused, particularly if you were the one who initiated the breakup.
In fact, you may find that the more you interact with your ex or your children, the more they may try to play your guilt strings. Therefore, the only option you have is to learn to forgive yourself.
The best way to accomplish this is through two techniques. The first is a body awareness technique. This should be done over a period of days or even weeks. It's very simple.
Simply find a quiet, private place where you will be alone and undisturbed. Now sit with your eyes closed, relax and let your mind focus on your body. See if you can locate the area within your body that is storing the guilt energy.
Often this will be some part of your musculature that is tight. Once you locate it, do not resist it, go into it. Allow your musculature to loosen. If you feel like crying, do so. If the guilt is pressing down on you, let it take you. The purpose of this exercise is to get you to acknowledge and confront the guilt.
After all guilt is a feeling, and that feeling is stored somewhere in your body musculature. By doing this, the guilt will have less power over you and you will begin to make amends with it.
The second exercise involves journalling and letter writing. The first thing you need to do is write a narrative chronicling your relationship from its beginning, right through to your breakup. Do not lay blame either on yourself or your partner. Simply recount the history of your relationship.
Next you are going to write four letters. The first one (do not send it) is a letter of confession addressed to your ex in which you confess to your ex all the things you did to contribute to the failure of your relationship; the next letter is addressed to your ex (do not send it) in which you ask for his or her forgiveness; the next is a letter to your children, if applicable, (do not send it) in which you ask for their forgiveness for your breakup, and in which you pledge to continue on as a loving parent who will be forever committed to their well-being; and the last is a letter to yourself in which you identify what things you did in the course of your relationship that violated your values, and how you intend to avoid those violations in the future.
At the end of this letter, forgive yourself for violating these values, and for your part in contributing to the failure of your relationship. When you have finished, you should notice that the guilt has dissipated somewhat, if it not entirely.
It is so often true that we learn more about ourselves through our suffering than we do through our joy. Though it is painful, it has so much to teach us about ourselves. It forces us to look inward and to get a clearer picture of what our values are - indeed it helps to define them.© 2009, Breakup911.com
Distributed by McClatchy–Tribune Information Serv
Guilt is an emotion that arises when a normal, feeling person acts in conflict with his or her values - values which pertain to subjective notions of good or bad, right or wrong. Guilt gets intensified when the actions of the "guilty" person in some way hurt another person.
When a relationship is ended or about to be ended, there is frequently plenty of guilt to go around.
For example, the person who chooses to end a relationship commonly suffers from a phenomenon known as "dumper guilt." But even in the circumstance where both partners mutually agree to part, there is typically guilt experienced by both - guilt over what they did or didn't do, what they should or shouldn't have done, guilt over the failure of their relationship, in general, and guilt over the effect of their parting on their children, in particular.
What purpose does guilt serve?
Guilt can be one of the most compelling of all human emotions. It can be so compelling in fact, that it quite commonly leads to anxiety and depression, sometimes lasting for years. The purpose that guilt serves is to remind us of where our fence posts are placed, so to speak, on the boundaries of our value system.
In other words, when we cross over our boundary lines, acting in contradiction to our values, we are forced to pay a price. We get beset by feelings of uneasiness, self-loathing and ultimately shame.
In short, the purpose that guilt serves is to keep our behaviour in check. Were it not for this mechanism, we would all be unfeeling sociopaths whose actions and effects on others would have no internal accountability.
Putting guilt in perspective
If you have recently ended a relationship or are contemplating the ending of your current one and you are feeling guilty about it, whether you initiated or will initiate "the split," or whether it was or will be mutual, there are five things to consider:
* You should take some comfort in knowing that the guilt you are experiencing means that you are a normal, feeling person who has simply violated an internal boundary within your own value system. Violating your values does not necessarily make you a bad person.
* Even though you have violated your own value system, it does not mean that the ending of your relationship is somehow wrong. It may simply mean that you went about it in a less than appropriate way, that you may have given conflicting signals to your partner, created false expectations, and the like, or it may just reflect your concern for your children, if you have them.
* A relationship is a joint enterprise, and its failure is not all your doing. So do not fall into the trap of taking all the responsibility for the demise of your relationship, even if you may have been the one who chose to end it.
* There is appropriate guilt and inappropriate guilt. Inappropriate guilt derives from an overly officious or judgmental value system in which you are constantly trying to live up to the standards of others, or feel overly responsible for your actions or the feelings of others. If this is the case, try to go a little easier on yourself. Guilt should be reasonable, not disproportionate.
* Guilt can make us feel so bad, that we will often devise defenses against it, and look for ways to absolve ourselves of it. Consequently, you might find yourself being irrationally angry with your ex-partner, unduly consoling, or engaging with your ex in the blame game.
To avoid this, you really need to spend some time alone and get clear as to where your guilt is emanating from, and then try to come to terms with it.
Gaining clarity
To gain clarity about the guilt you are experiencing, try the following exercise. Get a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. On the left hand side at the top of the page, write "actions." On the right hand side of the top of the page, write "values."
Now beginning on the left hand side of the page, begin listing all of the actions you have recently taken about which you are feeling guilty. These might include things like: I ended my relationship; I yelled at my ex; I told him/her that he/she was no good; I cheated on him/her, etc.
Now on the right hand side, begin listing all of your values: This might include things like: I do not abandon others; I uphold my commitments; being dependable is everything; I love my children, etc.
Now when you're done, try to connect certain of your actions to certain of your values, and determine where there is a disconnect. In other words, which of your actions violated which values. By going through this process, you should achieve more clarity about where your guilt is emanating from, and this may better help you to reconcile and make amends with it.
Achieving forgiveness
When a relationship has ended, it is unrealistic to expect that your ex-partner or your children, for that matter, are going to forgive you any time soon for all the hurts that the ending of your relationship has caused, particularly if you were the one who initiated the breakup.
In fact, you may find that the more you interact with your ex or your children, the more they may try to play your guilt strings. Therefore, the only option you have is to learn to forgive yourself.
The best way to accomplish this is through two techniques. The first is a body awareness technique. This should be done over a period of days or even weeks. It's very simple.
Simply find a quiet, private place where you will be alone and undisturbed. Now sit with your eyes closed, relax and let your mind focus on your body. See if you can locate the area within your body that is storing the guilt energy.
Often this will be some part of your musculature that is tight. Once you locate it, do not resist it, go into it. Allow your musculature to loosen. If you feel like crying, do so. If the guilt is pressing down on you, let it take you. The purpose of this exercise is to get you to acknowledge and confront the guilt.
After all guilt is a feeling, and that feeling is stored somewhere in your body musculature. By doing this, the guilt will have less power over you and you will begin to make amends with it.
The second exercise involves journalling and letter writing. The first thing you need to do is write a narrative chronicling your relationship from its beginning, right through to your breakup. Do not lay blame either on yourself or your partner. Simply recount the history of your relationship.
Next you are going to write four letters. The first one (do not send it) is a letter of confession addressed to your ex in which you confess to your ex all the things you did to contribute to the failure of your relationship; the next letter is addressed to your ex (do not send it) in which you ask for his or her forgiveness; the next is a letter to your children, if applicable, (do not send it) in which you ask for their forgiveness for your breakup, and in which you pledge to continue on as a loving parent who will be forever committed to their well-being; and the last is a letter to yourself in which you identify what things you did in the course of your relationship that violated your values, and how you intend to avoid those violations in the future.
At the end of this letter, forgive yourself for violating these values, and for your part in contributing to the failure of your relationship. When you have finished, you should notice that the guilt has dissipated somewhat, if it not entirely.
It is so often true that we learn more about ourselves through our suffering than we do through our joy. Though it is painful, it has so much to teach us about ourselves. It forces us to look inward and to get a clearer picture of what our values are - indeed it helps to define them.
© 2009, Breakup911
Guilt is an emotion that arises when a normal, feeling person acts in conflict with his or her values - values which pertain to subjective notions of good or bad, right or wrong. Guilt gets intensified when the actions of the "guilty" person in some way hurt another person.
When a relationship is ended or about to be ended, there is frequently plenty of guilt to go around.
For example, the person who chooses to end a relationship commonly suffers from a phenomenon known as "dumper guilt." But even in the circumstance where both partners mutually agree to part, there is typically guilt experienced by both - guilt over what they did or didn't do, what they should or shouldn't have done, guilt over the failure of their relationship, in general, and guilt over the effect of their parting on their children, in particular.
What purpose does guilt serve?
Guilt can be one of the most compelling of all human emotions. It can be so compelling in fact, that it quite commonly leads to anxiety and depression, sometimes lasting for years. The purpose that guilt serves is to remind us of where our fence posts are placed, so to speak, on the boundaries of our value system.
In other words, when we cross over our boundary lines, acting in contradiction to our values, we are forced to pay a price. We get beset by feelings of uneasiness, self-loathing and ultimately shame.
In short, the purpose that guilt serves is to keep our behaviour in check. Were it not for this mechanism, we would all be unfeeling sociopaths whose actions and effects on others would have no internal accountability.
Putting guilt in perspective
If you have recently ended a relationship or are contemplating the ending of your current one and you are feeling guilty about it, whether you initiated or will initiate "the split," or whether it was or will be mutual, there are five things to consider:
* You should take some comfort in knowing that the guilt you are experiencing means that you are a normal, feeling person who has simply violated an internal boundary within your own value system. Violating your values does not necessarily make you a bad person.
* Even though you have violated your own value system, it does not mean that the ending of your relationship is somehow wrong. It may simply mean that you went about it in a less than appropriate way, that you may have given conflicting signals to your partner, created false expectations, and the like, or it may just reflect your concern for your children, if you have them.
* A relationship is a joint enterprise, and its failure is not all your doing. So do not fall into the trap of taking all the responsibility for the demise of your relationship, even if you may have been the one who chose to end it.
* There is appropriate guilt and inappropriate guilt. Inappropriate guilt derives from an overly officious or judgmental value system in which you are constantly trying to live up to the standards of others, or feel overly responsible for your actions or the feelings of others. If this is the case, try to go a little easier on yourself. Guilt should be reasonable, not disproportionate.
* Guilt can make us feel so bad, that we will often devise defenses against it, and look for ways to absolve ourselves of it. Consequently, you might find yourself being irrationally angry with your ex-partner, unduly consoling, or engaging with your ex in the blame game.
To avoid this, you really need to spend some time alone and get clear as to where your guilt is emanating from, and then try to come to terms with it.
Gaining clarity
To gain clarity about the guilt you are experiencing, try the following exercise. Get a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. On the left hand side at the top of the page, write "actions." On the right hand side of the top of the page, write "values."
Now beginning on the left hand side of the page, begin listing all of the actions you have recently taken about which you are feeling guilty. These might include things like: I ended my relationship; I yelled at my ex; I told him/her that he/she was no good; I cheated on him/her, etc.
Now on the right hand side, begin listing all of your values: This might include things like: I do not abandon others; I uphold my commitments; being dependable is everything; I love my children, etc.
Now when you're done, try to connect certain of your actions to certain of your values, and determine where there is a disconnect. In other words, which of your actions violated which values. By going through this process, you should achieve more clarity about where your guilt is emanating from, and this may better help you to reconcile and make amends with it.
Achieving forgiveness
When a relationship has ended, it is unrealistic to expect that your ex-partner or your children, for that matter, are going to forgive you any time soon for all the hurts that the ending of your relationship has caused, particularly if you were the one who initiated the breakup.
In fact, you may find that the more you interact with your ex or your children, the more they may try to play your guilt strings. Therefore, the only option you have is to learn to forgive yourself.
The best way to accomplish this is through two techniques. The first is a body awareness technique. This should be done over a period of days or even weeks. It's very simple.
Simply find a quiet, private place where you will be alone and undisturbed. Now sit with your eyes closed, relax and let your mind focus on your body. See if you can locate the area within your body that is storing the guilt energy.
Often this will be some part of your musculature that is tight. Once you locate it, do not resist it, go into it. Allow your musculature to loosen. If you feel like crying, do so. If the guilt is pressing down on you, let it take you. The purpose of this exercise is to get you to acknowledge and confront the guilt.
After all guilt is a feeling, and that feeling is stored somewhere in your body musculature. By doing this, the guilt will have less power over you and you will begin to make amends with it.
The second exercise involves journalling and letter writing. The first thing you need to do is write a narrative chronicling your relationship from its beginning, right through to your breakup. Do not lay blame either on yourself or your partner. Simply recount the history of your relationship.
Next you are going to write four letters. The first one (do not send it) is a letter of confession addressed to your ex in which you confess to your ex all the things you did to contribute to the failure of your relationship; the next letter is addressed to your ex (do not send it) in which you ask for his or her forgiveness; the next is a letter to your children, if applicable, (do not send it) in which you ask for their forgiveness for your breakup, and in which you pledge to continue on as a loving parent who will be forever committed to their well-being; and the last is a letter to yourself in which you identify what things you did in the course of your relationship that violated your values, and how you intend to avoid those violations in the future.
At the end of this letter, forgive yourself for violating these values, and for your part in contributing to the failure of your relationship. When you have finished, you should notice that the guilt has dissipated somewhat, if it not entirely.
It is so often true that we learn more about ourselves through our suffering than we do through our joy. Though it is painful, it has so much to teach us about ourselves. It forces us to look inward and to get a clearer picture of what our values are - indeed it helps to define them.© 2009, Breakup911.com
Distributed by McClatchy–Tribune Information Serv
Thursday, January 29, 2009
4th day or CNY
It’s the fourth day of Chinese New Year, and I wish that everybody has a house full of gold, armored with fame and wealth, and also win the lottery frequently...
HAppy New Year.
HAppy New Year.
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
Monday, January 26, 2009
大年初二
今天是大年初二。。。。
每年的今天都回到马六甲姑姑的家拜年。。。
今年也不例外。。。
去过了马六甲。。。
就去了pagoh(巴鹅)朋友的家拜年。。。
这几天都是在家里做宅男。。。
没什么好写的了。。。哈哈。。。
新年快乐。。恭喜发财。。。
每年的今天都回到马六甲姑姑的家拜年。。。
今年也不例外。。。
去过了马六甲。。。
就去了pagoh(巴鹅)朋友的家拜年。。。
这几天都是在家里做宅男。。。
没什么好写的了。。。哈哈。。。
新年快乐。。恭喜发财。。。
Sunday, January 25, 2009
新年快乐!!
再过四十五分钟就是大年初一了。。。
新的一年新的开始。。。
就在鼠年的最后一天。。。 一切都跟着结束了。。。
希望新的一年,一切都能有个新的开始。。。。
可以快快乐乐的过。。。
祝大家,新年快乐。。。
新的一年新的开始。。。
就在鼠年的最后一天。。。 一切都跟着结束了。。。
希望新的一年,一切都能有个新的开始。。。。
可以快快乐乐的过。。。
祝大家,新年快乐。。。
Friday, January 23, 2009
Saturday, January 17, 2009
crazy lect
coming cny we only have 2 days holiday loh.. damn shit de loh.. hope sumbody will burn UTAR b4 cny then we no need to back to UTAR on CHU3 lo..haha.. damn shit de lah.. that damn lc selva. i really hate her loh... PhD so wat.. PhD no need to die meh.. "we are not frend.." wtf.. u wan to be frend i oso don wan lah... u think who u are.. if u really so great why not just stay at taylor.. why came to UTAR... huh?? somemore u are Dean wor.. why not just be ur Dean there... fuxx off la... hate to hear her history... i hate lect who likes to show off their qualification.. u can tell us where u graduate from.. but don tell me that u can get a better offer anytme.. if u really can get a better offer anytime then u just go.. don keep bullshiting in the class.. if u wan.. then fuxx urself off n get out of the class..
心理测验
刚刚做了一个名字的测验,结果如下:
*思想一向比較主觀,自我意識很強
*比較相信自己,猜疑心比較重,會提防他人
*想法前衛新穎,會自己發明新的事物
*有些感情用事,不夠冷靜沉著
*疑心病過重的人,會導致人際關係失敗
*自尊心超強,無法忍受人家的冷嘲熱諷
*比較重視朋友,對自己人的話反而不聽
*看起來很穩重,但做事常常欠缺考慮太衝動*重義氣,對自己的朋友說到做到
*有時太過於嚴肅,令人覺得不好親近
*思想一向比較主觀,自我意識很強
*比較相信自己,猜疑心比較重,會提防他人
*想法前衛新穎,會自己發明新的事物
*有些感情用事,不夠冷靜沉著
*疑心病過重的人,會導致人際關係失敗
*自尊心超強,無法忍受人家的冷嘲熱諷
*比較重視朋友,對自己人的話反而不聽
*看起來很穩重,但做事常常欠缺考慮太衝動*重義氣,對自己的朋友說到做到
*有時太過於嚴肅,令人覺得不好親近
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
14 Jan 2009
刚刚看了一位朋友的部落格,
看了过后感触很多。。
她的感情都是靠感觉,
而我呢。。
也是一样。。
不过我也经历过日久生情。。。
在别人的眼里,我可能是个乖小孩,
我自认我不坏,但也不是很乖的那种。。。
二十三岁了。。经历过两段段荒唐的感情。。
两段都是在自己毁掉之前八年的感情后。。。
都怪自己不懂珍惜。。。
来到了新环境,
对一切的事物都感到好奇。。。
还记得才开学第三个星期,
就把那段感情给毁了。。
过后就过着那种颠倒的生活。。
朋友也慢慢的少了。。。
很多人都在怪我,都在背后里说闲话。。
过后有一段荒唐的感情发生的很突然,
还记得那时赶报告赶得很晚。。
赶到很累的时候我们停下休息。。
在哪时候没什么事做,
就发了简讯给朋友,
那时已经是半夜两点多了。。
就在那时有一位朋友回了我简讯。。。
原来她失眠无所事事在那儿。。
就这样我们谈了一下子,
在要继续赶报告时,她约了我隔天出来见面。。
隔天下午,她真的来找我。。
于是我们就去看电影。。。
真不知那时是什么日子。。。
才下午四点多。。人很多。。而且排在我们周围的都是情侣。。
那时我突然觉得有点怪怪的。。
晚上吃了晚餐打算送她回家时,
她的屋友打来通知她,他们全部上云顶,
晚上只剩她一个人。。
就这样我也不懂怎样就到她的家陪她。。。
也就在这一夜,我们开始了。。。
这段感情也只维持了差不多一个多月而已。。。
最近,发觉自己喜欢上了一位朋友。。
因为实习的关系,她住进了我家的主人房。。
慢慢的。。。我发觉我自己真的喜欢上她。。
其实很早我注意过她,不过停见朋友告诉我她是向钱看齐的。。就没管她了。。。
过后住在一起后。。才发觉那一切都是谣言。。
日子久了,也慢慢的越来越喜欢他。。
不过,一直没向她表白,而到现在我们还是朋友。。。。
不表白的原因就是像感觉所说的一样。。
怕讲了过后,朋友都没得做。。。
至少,现在大家还能一伙聊通宵,一起出去。。一起去玩。。。一起泡夜店。。
现在的我,虽然在一段感情当中。。
不过,我觉得这段感情不会久。。
因为来得太快了。。。
我怕crush会变成crash。。。
感言:
人生会遇到很多的抉择。。每一个决定都带来不一样的结局。。。
有人欢喜,有人愁。。。
每一个决定,都有正负两面。。
就看你怎样去做选择。。。
有些东西,不由得你去管太多,想太多。。。
看了过后感触很多。。
她的感情都是靠感觉,
而我呢。。
也是一样。。
不过我也经历过日久生情。。。
在别人的眼里,我可能是个乖小孩,
我自认我不坏,但也不是很乖的那种。。。
二十三岁了。。经历过两段段荒唐的感情。。
两段都是在自己毁掉之前八年的感情后。。。
都怪自己不懂珍惜。。。
来到了新环境,
对一切的事物都感到好奇。。。
还记得才开学第三个星期,
就把那段感情给毁了。。
过后就过着那种颠倒的生活。。
朋友也慢慢的少了。。。
很多人都在怪我,都在背后里说闲话。。
过后有一段荒唐的感情发生的很突然,
还记得那时赶报告赶得很晚。。
赶到很累的时候我们停下休息。。
在哪时候没什么事做,
就发了简讯给朋友,
那时已经是半夜两点多了。。
就在那时有一位朋友回了我简讯。。。
原来她失眠无所事事在那儿。。
就这样我们谈了一下子,
在要继续赶报告时,她约了我隔天出来见面。。
隔天下午,她真的来找我。。
于是我们就去看电影。。。
真不知那时是什么日子。。。
才下午四点多。。人很多。。而且排在我们周围的都是情侣。。
那时我突然觉得有点怪怪的。。
晚上吃了晚餐打算送她回家时,
她的屋友打来通知她,他们全部上云顶,
晚上只剩她一个人。。
就这样我也不懂怎样就到她的家陪她。。。
也就在这一夜,我们开始了。。。
这段感情也只维持了差不多一个多月而已。。。
最近,发觉自己喜欢上了一位朋友。。
因为实习的关系,她住进了我家的主人房。。
慢慢的。。。我发觉我自己真的喜欢上她。。
其实很早我注意过她,不过停见朋友告诉我她是向钱看齐的。。就没管她了。。。
过后住在一起后。。才发觉那一切都是谣言。。
日子久了,也慢慢的越来越喜欢他。。
不过,一直没向她表白,而到现在我们还是朋友。。。。
不表白的原因就是像感觉所说的一样。。
怕讲了过后,朋友都没得做。。。
至少,现在大家还能一伙聊通宵,一起出去。。一起去玩。。。一起泡夜店。。
现在的我,虽然在一段感情当中。。
不过,我觉得这段感情不会久。。
因为来得太快了。。。
我怕crush会变成crash。。。
感言:
人生会遇到很多的抉择。。每一个决定都带来不一样的结局。。。
有人欢喜,有人愁。。。
每一个决定,都有正负两面。。
就看你怎样去做选择。。。
有些东西,不由得你去管太多,想太多。。。
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
7/01/09
唉。。。多几个小时就要回去pj了。。
这次回去要等到下个星期四才能回来了。。
过后会更少时间回来。。因为是最后一年了。。将会有很多的东西要做。。
明天到了就要开始忙了。。
首先就是打扫房间咯。。整一个月不在那里。。一定很多灰尘。。
过后就得到姑姑家帮忙了。。因为星期六是我表姐的大喜之日。。。
这也是我这么早回的原因。。。
要是是平常。我一定到星期日才会的。。。哈哈。。
这次可是生平第一次开新娘车门。。哈哈。。
到时红包不够大就不给新郎官下车。。哈哈。。。一定要敲他一笔。。。
那么我才能过肥年。。哈哈。。。
明天回去后要等到下个星期四才能更新这个部落格乐。。。
到时才给你们看照片吧。。。哈哈。。
这次回去要等到下个星期四才能回来了。。
过后会更少时间回来。。因为是最后一年了。。将会有很多的东西要做。。
明天到了就要开始忙了。。
首先就是打扫房间咯。。整一个月不在那里。。一定很多灰尘。。
过后就得到姑姑家帮忙了。。因为星期六是我表姐的大喜之日。。。
这也是我这么早回的原因。。。
要是是平常。我一定到星期日才会的。。。哈哈。。
这次可是生平第一次开新娘车门。。哈哈。。
到时红包不够大就不给新郎官下车。。哈哈。。。一定要敲他一笔。。。
那么我才能过肥年。。哈哈。。。
明天回去后要等到下个星期四才能更新这个部落格乐。。。
到时才给你们看照片吧。。。哈哈。。
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
开学咯。。。
时间过得真快。。
一下子。。。全国各中小学已经开课了。。。
下个星期就到我了。。。
现在真的不想回去。。。
不想回去有很多的原因。。
最大的原因还是因为这个家。。。
在家里虽然每天要照顾两个化骨龙。。
不过却是开心的。。但有时又是很生气。。。哈哈。。矛盾。。。
也许这就是人生。。。
题外话。。。
今天看报纸,
台湾广告教父-孙大伟说:矛盾是创意的能量。。。
所以我说,人生必须充满矛盾才会精彩。。。哈哈。。。(乱讲的)
回到白沙罗。。有时每天对这四面墙。。。很讨厌。。。
但是不对着它们。。又得花钱出去。。。
经济不好。。不能乱花钱了。。。
再加上这个学期的学费很多。。。真的是他妈的。。。
读这科,什么设施都没用,学费反而贵。。。
别人的大学有游泳池,篮球场,网球场。。。。。。
而且是全部免费的哦。。
我的大学呢。。哈哈。。。有篮球场,羽球场。。不过全都是要还钱的。。
而且是跟一所教会租的。。。
上课时常会没有冷气,但考试的时候就特别冷。。。
不过有一点可赞的是它的wireless internet access很快。。虽然很多人在用,但他还是快过电脑使得电脑。。。哈哈。。。
哎呀。。走得太远了。。。回来回来。。。
不想回去的另一个原因是。。。。。
就是不想赶报告咯。。。哈哈。。。
每一个新学期都会说早早做完。。
但是每一次都是追后一分钟的。。
江山易改,本性难移。。。
而弥陀佛。。。
这个学期,还考得不措。。希望毕业时能有更高的分数吧。。。
保佑保佑。。。。
一下子。。。全国各中小学已经开课了。。。
下个星期就到我了。。。
现在真的不想回去。。。
不想回去有很多的原因。。
最大的原因还是因为这个家。。。
在家里虽然每天要照顾两个化骨龙。。
不过却是开心的。。但有时又是很生气。。。哈哈。。矛盾。。。
也许这就是人生。。。
题外话。。。
今天看报纸,
台湾广告教父-孙大伟说:矛盾是创意的能量。。。
所以我说,人生必须充满矛盾才会精彩。。。哈哈。。。(乱讲的)
回到白沙罗。。有时每天对这四面墙。。。很讨厌。。。
但是不对着它们。。又得花钱出去。。。
经济不好。。不能乱花钱了。。。
再加上这个学期的学费很多。。。真的是他妈的。。。
读这科,什么设施都没用,学费反而贵。。。
别人的大学有游泳池,篮球场,网球场。。。。。。
而且是全部免费的哦。。
我的大学呢。。哈哈。。。有篮球场,羽球场。。不过全都是要还钱的。。
而且是跟一所教会租的。。。
上课时常会没有冷气,但考试的时候就特别冷。。。
不过有一点可赞的是它的wireless internet access很快。。虽然很多人在用,但他还是快过电脑使得电脑。。。哈哈。。。
哎呀。。走得太远了。。。回来回来。。。
不想回去的另一个原因是。。。。。
就是不想赶报告咯。。。哈哈。。。
每一个新学期都会说早早做完。。
但是每一次都是追后一分钟的。。
江山易改,本性难移。。。
而弥陀佛。。。
这个学期,还考得不措。。希望毕业时能有更高的分数吧。。。
保佑保佑。。。。
Monday, January 5, 2009
烂网络服务!!
这几天真的西北的生气。。。
Streamyx down了两天。。。什么击败服务咯。。。喂,我一个月给RM110的叻。。。
你给我的服务。。比dial-up更慢。。是不是应该刁到泥够力够力。。。
Streamyx down了两天。。。什么击败服务咯。。。喂,我一个月给RM110的叻。。。
你给我的服务。。比dial-up更慢。。是不是应该刁到泥够力够力。。。
Saturday, January 3, 2009
大头。。大头。。
本来已经躺在床上想睡觉了。。。
但是突然收到一封简讯。。让我笑到不能睡。。。
朋友。。 今天你真的是让我笑到不行啊。。。
你这只虾。。真的是没人能比啊。。
竟然弄错开学时间。。。
别担心。。我会早回去。。到时才找你吧。。
这几天你要小心啊。。门要锁好。。
但是突然收到一封简讯。。让我笑到不能睡。。。
朋友。。 今天你真的是让我笑到不行啊。。。
你这只虾。。真的是没人能比啊。。
竟然弄错开学时间。。。
别担心。。我会早回去。。到时才找你吧。。
这几天你要小心啊。。门要锁好。。
乱!!!乱!!乱!!
这几天心情真得很乱。。。
发生了满多的事情。。。
也更加确定了某些事情。。
有些事,我是知道的。。
你说的东西我知道。。。
但是我也知道那些都不是真正的原因。。
最大的原因还是-她!!
虽然我想相信。。
但是我心里知道这一切都是真的。。
这一切怨不了别人。。。
祝你能真正的快乐。。。
发生了满多的事情。。。
也更加确定了某些事情。。
有些事,我是知道的。。
你说的东西我知道。。。
但是我也知道那些都不是真正的原因。。
最大的原因还是-她!!
虽然我想相信。。
但是我心里知道这一切都是真的。。
这一切怨不了别人。。。
祝你能真正的快乐。。。
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